Sleeping Dilemma

I slept horribly again on the new bed. Basically it's too soft. I feel like I'm sleeping on a marshmallow, and like my pillow (tempurpedic) is the only anchor of firmness. It's a struggle to get out bed to pee (at least 2 times a night), and it's basically a struggle to get comfortable. I feel absolutely hungover today. I'm exhausted and not getting quality sleep. I don't feel refreshed in the morning; I feel like I got the crap kicked out of me.

Here is the dilemma: apparently this stage of pregnancy = hell in general when it comes to sleeping. The hips, back and everything becomes much more uncomfortable. While I noticed this in the last week with the old mattress, it has gone from uncomfortable level 4.5 to say, 9.5.

I don't know what to do. Pete's in heavenly bliss all night and I'm in purgatory. The sales dude told us we could trade it in for any other mattress within 60 days, but that it would take about 3 weeks to get adjusted to the new mattress. I am telling you with 100% conviction that I will be homicidal if I have to wait three weeks to get some goddamn sleep.

Should I give it a few more nights? How much of being uncomfortable is being 7 mos pregnant? Advice please.

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  1. That really sucks. I don't remember being that uncomfortable at 7 months. I had a Snoogle body pillow, though and that really helped.

    As far as beds are concerned. They are expensive, but Fred and I got a Select Comfort bed about 5 years ago and I love it. He can have his side firm, and I can have mine soft. Plus since it is adjustable, when I was pregnant, I could change the firmness based on what was more comfortable at different stages.

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  2. I'd like to offer something here, but unfortunately it can only be sympathy. This is from the girl who cannot sleep with her husband becuase of his snorning. We alternate the couch and the bed, and by alternate I mean he's been AWESOME in taking the couch during the week so I can get up and function while at work, and I take it on the weekend.
    Personally, I think that 3 weeks is a helluva long time to "adjust" to a new anything...

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  3. Ok, I wrote a new blog. I am going to start calling you the blog nazi!

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  4. Snakey- Have you been going to get massages or having your back treated? Maybe you could look into having those pregnancy massages on a more frequent basis OR maybe accupuncture? I am not sure what stipulations your pregnancy might have on that but maybe you can talk to your doctor to see if perhaps the matress is not really the issue...maybe you need some muscle loosening and some relaxation?

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  5. Thanks gang. I have a body pillow that I DID love, but now that I'm sleeping on a marshmallow, it seems like too much softness around me.

    I also might try out our sofabed tonight. Drastic, yes, but really I need to get some sleep. We're going back to the store tonight to see if we can find a compromise and to price the Sleep Number beds. Sleep = important.

    Newmie, I'm always up for a massage, but since this just started yesterday I KNOW it's a result of the mattress. Dammit.

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  6. seems like you have a good plan, but fwiw, i couldn't sleep for anything towards the end. my hips just ached and ached. and ached. and now it's ok again. hang in there peanut.

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  7. Ok update: we just went to the store. Sleep Number = no go. Firm pillowtop = freaking awesome. Here are the cons: it's $500 more, although I think I can get that number down (master haggler, remember?). And um Pete doesn't like it. But I told him I'd buy him a really nice foam topper (twin) for his side. He said that was ghetto. I said no, ghetto is spending $1400 on a new mattress and me wanting to cry when I wake up in the morning.

    I'm sleeping on the sofabed in the guest/office/baby room tonight to make sure it's not just me.

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  8. I can't believe you only get up two times a night to pee. I used to get up 7 or 8 time. You're my hero

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  9. I'm not sure if I'm rooting for the sofabed to have worked out or not. I mean, in a way yes so you were able to get some sleep. On the other hand...the whole thing just sucks. I myself took the couch last night recognizing I won't sleep well either way, so hubby should get some shut-eye. Wow, freaking nice of me! Bad news is I graduated to the lower pack pain stage no matter where I am. It happened when I got out of bed yesterday too. Read the chapter in Belly Laughs on the new mattress fiasco, if you haven't already...
    On a side note, I may or may not be at work today. I have to call the jury commissioner's office at 8am. Stay tuned, I have a lot to bitch, er blog, abut that one!

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  10. Ok update this morning: slept wonderfully on the sofabed. It's hard as a rock. I think we're going to cut the horrid two-inch foam mattress topper that we had on our old mattress in half, thus making it a freaking four-inch topper for his half of the bed. And I get the firmer mattress that works for me.

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  11. Awesome on the new bed! I hope it works out.

    Being nosy... so why was the sleep number a no go? too expensive, or not comfy?

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  12. Not comfy! Felt like a camping mattress.

    I just conferred with Mr. Hansen, and we're BOTH sleeping on the sofabed tonight, him with the four-inch foam topper, me without. We'll see how that works.

    The deal with exchanging the mattress is we only get one exchange, so if we get the firm mattress and Pete is in purgatory, we're stuck with the firm mattress. Which I wouldn't really mind, but I'm trying to think of Pete too.

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  13. Camping matress? Very interesting. Did you try the super, throw down, pillow top one? That's the one we have and I LOVE it. I don't remember what the less expensive ones cost, I only remember laying on that top of the line bad boy and saying, "how fast can you get this to my house?"

    Eeek, only one exchange. Yeah, you definitely need to get it right.

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  14. Yeah, camping mattress. Mind you, I wouldn't let Pete even test the one that was $3500. We tested the lowest end one and hated it. Maybe we'll go back and test the second lowest one. We can't afford the highest end one without sending me into massive anxiety.

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  15. First a few comments and then some advice. We have a tempurpedic, which my wife absolutely insisted that we purchase, and now she hates it while I love it. She's says it's way too hot and she can't sleep. Meanwhile, I'm sleeping like a baby. As for the tempurpedic pillows, they turned into rocks, and neither of use them anymore.

    OK, now for the advice: Give up on trying to sleep soundly and just appreciate the few hours you might actually get. Sleeping is for people without kids or who are not pregnant.

    We haven't slept past 7AM for close to a year and a half now. My 18-month old son likes to wake up at 4:30 and 5AM on a regular basis. We thank the heavens when he sleeps in to 6AM and we are stunned when he sleeps to 7.

    No tips, tricks, or advice work. He's simply an early riser. I pray for you that Little Girl is a late sleeper.

    I realize that might have been a bit off topic, but that's my words of wisdom.

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  16. Ok, yeah. We have model 7000. That is the $3500 one. Eeek. It was super expensive, but this was our take (which probably doesn't apply to you.) Fred is a big guy and demolishes standard bed springs in about 4 years. We had bought a traditional matress about 4 years before we bought the Sleep Number. The traditional matress was fairly expensive, I thought. Probably $1500-$1800, and barely lasted four years. I figured we get the nice sleep number without springs to be mashed and it would last us a while. We've had it 5 years and it is still good as new. I remember trying out the lower end models, and you are right. Not comfy.

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  17. I got to say sleeping during pregnancy was just hard for me and I was definitely uncomfortable. I think it's within the range of normal. It is much harder being a short pregnant woman. I also did get the firmest mattress we could get... and I love it still.
    I also started sleeping in another room from Mr F towards the end of my pregnancy because it allowed me to spread out and get the most sleep possible.

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